Experiencing first-time sex can be nerve-wracking, but it’s probably also exciting. However, there are so many myths about losing your virginity out there that it’s time to set straight what’s true and what’s not. With that in mind, here we present our list of 15 things you probably didn’t know about first-time sex. Check out part one below, and stay tuned for part two, coming soon!
Number Fifteen: First-Time Sex Doesn’t Necessarily Have to Involve Penetration
Though many people link their virginity to vaginal penetration, the truth is that it’s much more complicated than that. “Sex” can be whatever an individual wants or is comfortable with, so having “sex” for the first time could involve only manual stimulation for some people.
Number Fourteen: The Myth of the Cherry Pop
It’s a common myth that females experience vaginal bleeding the first time they do the deed. While some women do, in fact, bleed a lot, other women don’t bleed at all the first time they do it. Some women aren’t even born with a hymen!
Number Thirteen: Checking a Hymen Won’t Prove Virginity
Some countries check women’s hymens to see if they’re still intact. If they are, then they’re considered “virgins.” However, it’s possible to have sex without breaking the hymen, and it’s also possible to break the hymen without having sex at all.
Number Twelve: First-Time Sex Won’t Necessarily Hurt
While some women do describe their first time having sex as painful, it’s not like that for all women. At the end of the day, if you experience massive pain or discomfort, you should probably stop, but a little bit is perfectly normal.
Number Eleven: It’s Important to Prepare for It
And by that, we mean – foreplay is crucial. Especially for people having sex for the first time, foreplay helps keep everything lubricated and make sure both partners are on the same page.
Number Ten: Use Lube
Seriously! Lube still has a taboo of being “kinky,” but truthfully, it helps with just about everything. Not only will lube make you, well, lubricated, but it will also make everything heightened and more pleasurable.
Number Nine: Don’t Expect an Orgasm
In fact, even women and men who have been doing the deed for years don’t always come when they do the deed. The most important aspects of having sex for the first time is making sure both people are comfortable, consensual and enjoying themselves. Stay tuned for part two of our list, coming soon!