So what exactly is swinging? The question that has baffled curios folk for years. With Hollywood and television so often portraying the swinging lifestyle as a sleazy affair with a bowl full of keys and leering middle aged men. It is important to try and diminish those stereotypes. Known by a number of other names such as swapping, partner sharing and the more formal hedonism. We take a look at the top 8 most common misconceptions.
Number Eight: Swingers Have Meaningless Sex With People They Will Never See Again
Ok. Yes there are many one stands and some may mean more than others. However one of the best parts of being in a swinging lifestyle so to speak is the long lasting friendships that are made throughout the experience. Basically sex is not the be all and end all. With some forming close and meaningful relationships.
Number Seven: Swingers Don’t Practice Safe Sex
A stereotype that has tainted the swinging community for years due to exaggerated stories on the silver screen. In fact it is a completely different story. With the majority of people involved living a somewhat ‘normal’ lifestyle. Many swingers have kids and work regular 9-5 jobs. Therefore being careless with regards to using protection is something that just doesn’t resonate with there everyday working lives.
Number Six: Swingers Want To Have Sex With Everyone
Many people stupidly believe that when they meet somebody who partakes in the odd swinging session. That they will also want to probably have sex with you. Sorry to break it to you but the swinging code is rock solid. Therefore if you are not actively involved in the practice then don’t just expect it to happen. Swingers are not constantly turned on and don’t have a need for sex every second of the day.
Number Five: Swingers Are Sadists
Again another stereotype so fondly adored. Swingers are not all leather wearing deviants, obsessed with sadism and fond of a slight smack on the backside. The Swinging lifestyle is actually believe it or not one of the tamer sexual groups. With fantasies varying from one person to the next just like any other regular relationship.
Number Four: Swinging Is Cheating
With honest and trust being a key part of a swinging relationship. Both halves are encouraged to know exactly what is going on in every situation. As consent is absolutely necessary for both parties, it is then asked that you should be straightforward with no secrets. Acting behind someones back however is another story completely.
Number Three: People Who Swing Are Unhappy
In order to swing you have got to at least be in a trusting and loving relationship that enables you to feel comfortable in all swinging type situations. Therefore couples who do take part in the swinging lifestyle must be in a pretty solid relationship to be able to do so. Either used as way to spice up one’s romance or just to indulge in a littler bit of fun. It is extremely unlikely that an unhappy couple would be welcomed into the swinging community anyway.
Number Three: Swinging Will Help Your Unhappy Relationship
Speaking of which. If you think that by involving you and your partner into the act of swinging will save your crumbling relationship. Then you are completely wrong. All swinging will do is either increase your lack of trust and then intensify any underlying feelings of jealously and spite. No matter what happens as soon as you leave the bedroom the problems that were already there will still be ingrained deep inside of you.
Number Two: Swinging Is A Man’s World
Although men may have a tendency to be the first to suggest such an idea it can only work if the woman agrees and is entirely on board. It has also been noted that the female seems to do most of the communicating and interacting. Arranging the dates and choosing the couples to begin relations with.
Number One: Swingers Try To Convert Everyone Into Being Swingers
Swinging is most definitely not for every couple and don’t swingers no it. Although you may find some couples who are open about their sexual lifestyle and what they get up to behind closed doors it doesn’t mean they are trying to entice you in their kinky dungeon of dreams. The stigma attached to swinging can often have people draw up their own conclusions. For example when somebody tells you that they prefer chicken over beef it doesn’t mean they are trying persuade you into thinking the same thing does it?